Who is this “King” Anyway? (Part 2)

Hello, Kings and Queens!

On Thursday I posted Part 1 of my personal history, about my formative years that have begun to lead me down my current path. Today we are continuing that saga, talking about the next hurdles I had to overcome in my development before I decided, “Hey, I want to teach SEX for a living.”

Late College Years (AKA: You’re an Asshole)

Understand that before I go any further, there is some overlap in the timeline from the last section into this one. For about a 1-2 years into this phase, I was trying to change and find a lasting approach to finding a partner, but I was still approaching it from the pickup artist mentality. I don’t truly step out of that phase entirely until the end of the Asshole Years here.

Toward the end of my freshman year of college, I had a girlfriend with whom I had my first experience with Intercourse. We had our time together, and then we ended.

I was upset.

Then I moved on.

And as I moved on, and began dating again, I noticed that some of the other girls I was dating had some similar trends.

While I was entirely FASCINATED with learning all I could about sex (even if only to try to be the ego-fueled “rockstar lover”), the people that I was seeing had very conflicting views, or there were things that I was taught or learned that they had never heard before.

And I began to notice a gap.

Both between what I knew and they didn’t, but also between what we both should have known, but didn’t.

This gap didn’t make sense to me.

So I set out to help educate the girls I was with.

But keep in mind, I was still using a “Pickup Artist” mindset, which only meant trying to manipulate external behaviors to get a surface result.

Now not only was I manipulating to get someone into bed, but now I was manipulating them once there. To what I wanted.

If you think this wreaked havoc for more than one relationship, you’d be right.

This is why I call this point in my life the Asshole Years.

The Loneliest Christmas Ever (It gets better, I Promise)

It all came to a head when one particularly tumultuous relationship ended a week before Christmas, two years ago.

I was shattered.

Then, on Christmas Eve, I had a breakthrough.

I will probably cover it in more detail at a future date, but it was this Christmas that I realized I needed to change me.

Not in a self-judgmental way, but with compassion.

And I realized that I had to treat all of my future significant others with that same compassion.

The “Secret” to finding the girl of your dreams isn’t some set of the right words, or the right cologne with pheromones to try to catch her attention.

The Secret is to be compassionate with your partner.

So I made some changes. To me. And it worked

Less than five months after having this epiphany, I met my current girlfriend of now two-years. And I have never been happier.

Because I show her compassion, even when it means I may not get what I want.

I hope some of what I said has resonated with you.

Maybe you’ve been through a similar experience,or maybe you were on the opposite end of my experience.

Maybe you’re searching for the partner of your dreams, but don’t like the shallow approach so many magazines and articles tout as the solution.

So much suffering is caused by a lack of proper information.

Such a lack greatly influenced me and my partners, though not always in a positive way. Sometimes, that left suffering in its wake.

My mission with this channel is to try to end that suffering, by educating people both with scientific fact, as well as my own experience to serve as an example.

Do I have specific qualifications? No, not yet.

But I want to make sure that nobody else has to suffer because they didn’t know any better.

And I hope you’ll join me.



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Much Love,



Who is this “King” Anyway? (Part 1)

Good afternoon, fellow Kings and Queens!

Before we go any further in our relationship, I feel it necessary to introduce you a little more to myself, so you get to know who I AM, and don’t just think me just some whackjob typing away at his computer.

Don’t misunderstand me, I am a whackjob typing away at his computer, but I want you to be able to understand WHY I am so.

High School and Early College (AKA: The Pre-Awesome Years)

Believe it or not, I was not always the steaming hunk of sex-nerdiness and love that you see before you today.

I was what some call a bit of a late bloomer.

In high school, I was always interested in girls, and had a few girlfriends with whom I had my first pseudo-sexual experiences (I thank you all for putting up with pubescent me), but was never the most popular guy that had all of the ladies flocking around me.

And to give you an idea of just how NOT of the popular guy I was, here is a picture of me from my freshman year.

Who is this "King" Anyway
Yes. That is me thinking I am cool wearing Abercrombie and Fitch… and a TRILBY!

No. Like many highschoolers, I was curious yet awkward about the intricacies of courtship and the opposite sex (or courting the same sex for some of you). I was in Choir AND Theatre, and was on the JV Swim Team (I’m actually really proud of that one. I won first place in my District one year in the 100yd Butterfly)

But back to Dating!

Eventually, after tip-toeing through four years of high school, I fell head first into the college experience…

Except instead of doing keggers and banging sorority chicks I was the guy on the sidelines awkwardly asking girls to dance and getting politely turned away from.

After realizing that even though I had left high school behind, i was still ME, i got really into studying pickup artists on the internet and youtube. I bought several courses on how to attract and pick up women because I just wanted to improve my level of confidence.

After a while of subscribing to the teachings of certain youtubers that demonstrated how to get a girls phone number in one go, and other various pickup practices, I began to become disillusioned with it all. As I practiced these methods, I began to realize that all of these teachings were merely techniques.

They were shallow strategies used to attract a woman, based on your behavior from the outside-in. They were manipulations meant to play with a girls emotions. and they didn’t even WORK that well.

I didn’t feel good doing all of this. Over time I realized that true happiness; the toolkit to find a partner that will stick by you through thick and thin, or even better: the toolkit to being okay without a partner, had to come from the inside-out.

This required a sense of confidence and self acceptance that the pickup artists on the internet simply cannot replicate or sustain in their viewers.

So I sought out to change that in myself.


I will discuss more of that, and more of how despite my best intentions, I don’t really escape this phase of my life for a bit longer. Till then, thank you all for your support thus far. Leave a comment below if you have a topic you want me to cover, and feel free to share this post on Social Media.


Much Love,


How to Connect with your Lover this Valentine’s Day

Kings and Queens,

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. A day dedicated to celebrating your lover and all of the warmth and joy that they bring to your life.

A day where you pull out all of the stops to make your lover know how important they are in your life.

This day as a celebration of Lovers dates back to 3rd Century Rome, where a Catholic Priest, Valentine, performed marriages in secret, despite laws that forbade marriage at the time.

But this post is not exactly about romantic love with a partner.

No, the roots of this day go even deeper.

Further than any singular historical event, the roots of Valentine’s day lie within each of us.

We all have this innate desire to love and be loved in return. To experience joy in the world, through the world, and within and through ourselves.

I call this drive… This desire…

The Lover Energy.

This is one of four major archetypal energies that Robert Moore PhD claims is present in all of our psychology (The others being the King, Warrior, and Magician. We will cover these more later). They are patterns that have shown themselves evident through countless telling and retelling of stories through cultures around the world.

Every culture has a story or stories of the Lover.

Because there is a Lover in all of us.

And with Valentine’s Day around the corner, what better time may there be to nurture and give thanks to the Lover Within?

How might I do this, you ask?

Maybe you’re not the romantic type, and maybe buying roses for yourself or getting dinner for one seems a little weird. Especially if you’re single this Valentine’s Day.

But it doesnt have to be.

The Lover Energy, in addition to being the energy that connects you to another person, also allows you to connect with the entire world.

It is what allows you to empathize with a friend or stranger, and share their experience.

It is what allows you to close your eyes and sway to your favorite song.

It is what allows you to appreciate the beauty of a gorgeous sunset from a hilltop or a piece of art,

It is the smell of fresh baked cookies and the taste of your favorite food melting in your mouth.

It is the feeling of a soft blanket as you curl up with a book, or the feeling of soft grass on a sunny day.

It is all of these things and more.

It is the part of you that allows you to yield and let the world in all of its beauty, move you. To Love the World.

And To Love Yourself.

So this Valentine’s day, honor your inner Lover by:

  • Grabbing a table for one at your favorite resaurant
  • Swaying to your favorite song
  • Lying on the ground and feeling the warmth of the carpet underneath
  • Go visit a Museum for your favorite subject
  • Have an orgasm! Either by yourself or otherwise someone else!

Or really anything else that tells your Inner Lover “Yes, I am important too.”

That is what is really the most important.

You are Royalty. Treat yourself as such.

If you have someone to share this special day with, that is great. Absolutely honor them as fellow your King or Queen by by doing any of the activities listed above, or more ideas of your own.

But first…

Love yourself.



Happy Valentine’s Day

If you have any questions you want answered, leave them in the comments below, and don’t forget to share on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, or your other favorite sites if you know someone who needs to hear this message.

Much Love,