Who is this “King” Anyway? (Part 1)

Good afternoon, fellow Kings and Queens!

Before we go any further in our relationship, I feel it necessary to introduce you a little more to myself, so you get to know who I AM, and don’t just think me just some whackjob typing away at his computer.

Don’t misunderstand me, I am a whackjob typing away at his computer, but I want you to be able to understand WHY I am so.

High School and Early College (AKA: The Pre-Awesome Years)

Believe it or not, I was not always the steaming hunk of sex-nerdiness and love that you see before you today.

I was what some call a bit of a late bloomer.

In high school, I was always interested in girls, and had a few girlfriends with whom I had my first pseudo-sexual experiences (I thank you all for putting up with pubescent me), but was never the most popular guy that had all of the ladies flocking around me.

And to give you an idea of just how NOT of the popular guy I was, here is a picture of me from my freshman year.

Who is this "King" Anyway
Yes. That is me thinking I am cool wearing Abercrombie and Fitch… and a TRILBY!

No. Like many highschoolers, I was curious yet awkward about the intricacies of courtship and the opposite sex (or courting the same sex for some of you). I was in Choir AND Theatre, and was on the JV Swim Team (I’m actually really proud of that one. I won first place in my District one year in the 100yd Butterfly)

But back to Dating!

Eventually, after tip-toeing through four years of high school, I fell head first into the college experience…

Except instead of doing keggers and banging sorority chicks I was the guy on the sidelines awkwardly asking girls to dance and getting politely turned away from.

After realizing that even though I had left high school behind, i was still ME, i got really into studying pickup artists on the internet and youtube. I bought several courses on how to attract and pick up women because I just wanted to improve my level of confidence.

After a while of subscribing to the teachings of certain youtubers that demonstrated how to get a girls phone number in one go, and other various pickup practices, I began to become disillusioned with it all. As I practiced these methods, I began to realize that all of these teachings were merely techniques.

They were shallow strategies used to attract a woman, based on your behavior from the outside-in. They were manipulations meant to play with a girls emotions. and they didn’t even WORK that well.

I didn’t feel good doing all of this. Over time I realized that true happiness; the toolkit to find a partner that will stick by you through thick and thin, or even better: the toolkit to being okay without a partner, had to come from the inside-out.

This required a sense of confidence and self acceptance that the pickup artists on the internet simply cannot replicate or sustain in their viewers.

So I sought out to change that in myself.


I will discuss more of that, and more of how despite my best intentions, I don’t really escape this phase of my life for a bit longer. Till then, thank you all for your support thus far. Leave a comment below if you have a topic you want me to cover, and feel free to share this post on Social Media.


Much Love,



How to Connect with your Lover this Valentine’s Day

Kings and Queens,

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. A day dedicated to celebrating your lover and all of the warmth and joy that they bring to your life.

A day where you pull out all of the stops to make your lover know how important they are in your life.

This day as a celebration of Lovers dates back to 3rd Century Rome, where a Catholic Priest, Valentine, performed marriages in secret, despite laws that forbade marriage at the time.

But this post is not exactly about romantic love with a partner.

No, the roots of this day go even deeper.

Further than any singular historical event, the roots of Valentine’s day lie within each of us.

We all have this innate desire to love and be loved in return. To experience joy in the world, through the world, and within and through ourselves.

I call this drive… This desire…

The Lover Energy.

This is one of four major archetypal energies that Robert Moore PhD claims is present in all of our psychology (The others being the King, Warrior, and Magician. We will cover these more later). They are patterns that have shown themselves evident through countless telling and retelling of stories through cultures around the world.

Every culture has a story or stories of the Lover.

Because there is a Lover in all of us.

And with Valentine’s Day around the corner, what better time may there be to nurture and give thanks to the Lover Within?

How might I do this, you ask?

Maybe you’re not the romantic type, and maybe buying roses for yourself or getting dinner for one seems a little weird. Especially if you’re single this Valentine’s Day.

But it doesnt have to be.

The Lover Energy, in addition to being the energy that connects you to another person, also allows you to connect with the entire world.

It is what allows you to empathize with a friend or stranger, and share their experience.

It is what allows you to close your eyes and sway to your favorite song.

It is what allows you to appreciate the beauty of a gorgeous sunset from a hilltop or a piece of art,

It is the smell of fresh baked cookies and the taste of your favorite food melting in your mouth.

It is the feeling of a soft blanket as you curl up with a book, or the feeling of soft grass on a sunny day.

It is all of these things and more.

It is the part of you that allows you to yield and let the world in all of its beauty, move you. To Love the World.

And To Love Yourself.

So this Valentine’s day, honor your inner Lover by:

  • Grabbing a table for one at your favorite resaurant
  • Swaying to your favorite song
  • Lying on the ground and feeling the warmth of the carpet underneath
  • Go visit a Museum for your favorite subject
  • Have an orgasm! Either by yourself or otherwise someone else!

Or really anything else that tells your Inner Lover “Yes, I am important too.”

That is what is really the most important.

You are Royalty. Treat yourself as such.

If you have someone to share this special day with, that is great. Absolutely honor them as fellow your King or Queen by by doing any of the activities listed above, or more ideas of your own.

But first…

Love yourself.



Happy Valentine’s Day

If you have any questions you want answered, leave them in the comments below, and don’t forget to share on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, or your other favorite sites if you know someone who needs to hear this message.

Much Love,


Welcome to Kingly Love

Hello, everybody. My name is Kincaid; my friends call me King for short, and this is Kingly Love. In this series, we are going to discuss SEX. That’s right, I said it. The S-E-X word.  We are going to be discussing this -what I consider not only necessary, but fun- topic from all sides and angles: sex, dating, relationships, being single, the biological and anatomical, social, psychological, ethical, philosophical, spiritual, and more -als if we can think of any. (Ha! More-als! Get it?)

On top of simple how-tos and tips and tricks, and topic-based educational pieces, I’ll also be infusing a little of my own life experience along the way, sharing with you my personal philosophies and worldview as I work to broaden your horizons as well as my own.

To preface, and get it out of the way now, I am not, nor have I ever been or claim to be of material royal lineage (I am about as far removed from the Queen of England as a toothbrush). I do however, that each and every one of us has the potential within them to be the King and Queen of their realm. Of their life. And while there are many things that a King or Queen must be: a fierce leader, a generative creator, a wise-confidant; and we will cover all of those points and more, this series will focus primarily on becoming an expressive and healthy lover. (You know that personal philosophy I mentioned earlier? That’s the tip of the iceberg.)

So come on this journey with me, and together we will explore how much wonderful diversity is really out there, answer some of the tough questions, and learn a little bit about plugging objects into holes.

If you have any topic suggestions, or questions you want answered, leave them down in the comments below, and we can continue to crown ourselves.

Much Love,